How To Manifest Self-Love – 4 Steps To Attract Self-Worth

Are you wondering how to manifest self love? It’s not as hard as you think. Take these four simple steps to attract the self-worth you want.

Did you know that self love can affect your mental health? Think about it, if you don’t love yourself odds are you’re going to also have low self-esteem. How you view yourself begins in your mind. If you put negative energy out there, that is what you’ll get. 

The good news is that the opposite is also true. If you put positive energy out into the world, that’s what you’ll receive.

This is where manifesting comes into play. In this post we’re talking about how to manifest self-love. Before we get into the specifics, let’s figure out why self love is important and learn more about manifesting.

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Why Is Self Love Important?

There are so many reasons why you want to experience self love. Something that I’ve learned in my personal self-love journey  is that when I prioritize it, I feel more content. It takes hard work to truly appreciate the good things about yourself.

It might seem like an easy thing to do but our subconscious mind can try to sabotage us on a regular basis. If you want to see positive change in your self-love journey, you will have to practice these steps on a regular basis.

No matter the situation you are in (relationship vs. no relationship, friend group vs. feeling lonely, etc.) by loving yourself you have a constant source of unconditional love throughout the ins and outs of life. Another benefit of loving yourself is the self confidence you gain from feeling like your best self. 

This all sounds great, but what if self-love doesn’t come easy to you? Don’t fret, that’s exactly why I wrote this article. The truth is self love isn’t natural for me either. Through professional help, self-love exercises, and manifestation practices, the idea of self-love doesn’t seem so daunting anymore. I’ve even felt it from time to time as well.

What Exactly Does Manifesting Mean?

Self defines manifestation as “the idea of bringing something you want into existence through aspirational-thought practices.”

Some of these thought practices include things like creating a vision board, saying or writing positive affirmations (aka positive statements), journaling, and more. We’re going to get more specific in this next section as I show you the most important things to do to manifest self-love. 

How To Manifest Self-Love

You’ve learned why self-love is important and how manifestation works, now it’s time to combine the two. At the end of the day, the most important person in your life is you, so let’s start giving you the love you deserve.

By continuing to do the following exercises in your daily life, you’ll be on your way to becoming the best version of yourself – thanks to your new positive outlook.

State What You Want – Then Visualize It

To begin to manifest self love you have to state what you want. How do you want to feel? What would loving yourself add to your life? The best way to get the most out of this part is to get real honest with yourself. 

Next up you want to visualize what your life would be like if you loved yourself more. How would you act? What would you be doing? How would your days go? Get as specific as you can. To do this you can create a vision board, or even create a self-love journal (you’ll need one of those for the next step).


Surround Yourself With Positivity

After you’ve completed the first step, it’s time to go after that life full of self-love, because you deserve it. One of the easiest ways to keep the negative thoughts out is to surround yourself with positive ones.

To do this you’ll want to write out some self-love affirmations that you’ll be repeating to yourself daily. You can write them in a journal or on sticky notes. Make saying these powerful affirmations a part of your morning and/or night routine. It’s best to repeat them in front of a mirror.

Try some of these affirmations and see how they feel to you:

  1. “I am deserving of love, respect, and acceptance just as I am.”
  2. “My worth is not determined by external validations; I am inherently valuable.”
  3. “I acknowledge my strengths and embrace my imperfections, for they make me unique.”
  4. “I trust in my abilities and believe in my capacity to achieve my goals.”
  5. “I am worthy of setting boundaries that protect my well-being and happiness.”
  6. “I am confident in expressing my needs, wants, and opinions.”
  7. “I am deserving of success, and I have the power to create it in my life.”
  8. “I am enough, just as I am, and I am constantly growing and evolving.”
  9. “I release any negative self-talk and replace it with positive, empowering thoughts.”
  10. “I am a valuable, irreplaceable individual, and I contribute meaningfully to the world.”

Repeat these affirmations regularly, preferably in front of a mirror, to reinforce positive self-worth and cultivate a healthy sense of self-esteem.

In addition to affirmations, I personally connect with music and the messages that artists convey in their lyrics. If that speaks to you I challenge you to create your own self-love playlist, or you can save mine too. 

Utilize Self Love Rituals 

Now that you’ve started your own self-love journey, it’s time to take it up a notch. Positive affirmations are great, but if you are like me sometimes you need a little more to truly let the self-love sink in.

That is where self love rituals come in handy. I like to think of most of these as romanticizing your life.

Some ideas of self love rituals include taking a bath, sipping some tea, taking a walk in nature, and more. They are all great ways to take some time for yourself as you romanticize the little things in life. 

Here are some specific examples of self-love rituals:

Self-love rituals are practices that promote self-care, self-acceptance, and overall well-being. Here are some self-love rituals you can incorporate into your routine:

  1. Morning Affirmations: Start your day by reciting positive affirmations that affirm your worth and capabilities.
  2. Mindful Breathing or Meditation: Take a few minutes to focus on your breath or engage in a meditation practice to calm your mind and center yourself.
  3. Journaling: Write down your thoughts, feelings, and gratitude. This can help you process emotions and foster a positive outlook.
  4. Skincare Routine: Treat your skin with care and attention. A skincare routine can be a nurturing act of self-love.
  5. Healthy Eating Habits: Nourish your body with balanced, nutritious meals that make you feel good from the inside out.
  6. Exercise and Movement: Engage in physical activities that you enjoy, whether it’s yoga, dancing, walking, or any form of exercise that feels right for you.
  7. Disconnect from Screens: Take breaks from screens to give your mind and eyes a rest. Spend time in nature or engage in offline activities.
  8. Self-compassion Practice: Treat yourself with the same kindness, love, and understanding that you would offer a close friend.
  9. Pamper Yourself: Set aside time for self-care activities like a warm bath, face mask, or a massage.
  10. Set Boundaries: Learn to say no when necessary and prioritize your needs and well-being.
  11. Positive Affirmation Mirror Work: Look at yourself in the mirror and speak positive affirmations about your worth and beauty.
  12. Artistic Expression: Engage in creative activities like painting, drawing, writing, or crafting that allow you to express yourself.
  13. Reading Inspirational Material: Spend time reading books, quotes, or articles that inspire and uplift you.
  14. Gratitude Practice: Take a moment to reflect on what you’re grateful for, whether it’s big or small.
  15. Spend Time in Nature: Connect with the natural world through activities like hiking, picnicking, or simply enjoying a walk in a park.
  16. Sensory Experiences: Engage your senses with activities like aromatherapy, listening to soothing music, or enjoying a favorite meal.
  17. Forgive Yourself: Practice self-forgiveness for any past mistakes or shortcomings, and let go of self-criticism.
  18. Social Connection: Spend time with loved ones who uplift and support you, and cultivate meaningful relationships.
  19. Set and Celebrate Goals: Recognize your achievements, no matter how small, and celebrate your progress.
  20. Reflect and Rest: Take time to reflect on your day, and ensure you get enough rest to rejuvenate your body and mind.

Remember, self-love is a personal journey, and it’s important to tailor these rituals to what resonates most with you. Consistency and genuine care for yourself are key in cultivating a strong sense of self-love.

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Live Out The Way You Want To Feel

You’ve made it to the final step. This one may be a big ask, but I can tell you from personal experience that it is an important step that makes a difference.

Remember the visualization you did during step one? We are going to revisit here, but also take it a step further. I want you to start living your life from a place of self-love and positive self worth. 

One of the first things you’ll need to do is confront your limiting beliefs head-on every single day. It’s one of the best things you can do for yourself.

What are limiting beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are deeply ingrained thought patterns or beliefs that constrain a person in some way. These beliefs are typically self-imposed and often subconscious. They create mental barriers that can hold individuals back from reaching their full potential or pursuing their goals and dreams.

Limiting beliefs can manifest in various areas of life, including self-worth, career, relationships, personal development, and more. They are often formed based on past experiences, societal conditioning, or negative self-talk. Here are some examples of limiting beliefs:

  1. I’m not good enough: This belief might lead to self-doubt and a lack of confidence in one’s abilities.
  2. I don’t deserve success: This belief can hinder a person from pursuing their goals or taking risks because they feel unworthy of success.
  3. I’m too old/young: This belief may lead to feelings of inadequacy or a sense that it’s too late (or too early) to pursue certain opportunities.
  4. I’m not smart enough: This belief can undermine a person’s confidence in their intellectual abilities.
  5. I’m not lovable: This belief may lead to difficulties in forming and maintaining healthy relationships.
  6. Money is the root of all evil: This belief can create negative associations with wealth and hinder financial success.
  7. I have to be perfect: This belief can lead to a fear of failure and an unrealistic standard of achievement.
  8. Change is scary: This belief can cause resistance to change, even if it’s necessary for personal growth.
  9. I should always put others first: This belief may lead to neglecting one’s own needs and well-being.
  10. I can’t trust anyone: This belief can lead to difficulties in forming meaningful connections and relationships.

It’s important to recognize and challenge limiting beliefs because they can significantly impact a person’s happiness, fulfillment, and success.

By identifying and reframing these beliefs, individuals can open themselves up to new possibilities and achieve personal growth. This process often involves self-reflection, positive affirmations, and seeking support from others, such as friends, family, or professional counselors.

This is where all the powerful manifestation tools come into play.

Your limiting beliefs will try to convince you that this isn’t possible. When that happens I want you to pick one of your daily affirmations and just keep repeating that.

The more you practice living out the way you feel the easier it will get, until you don’t have to practice anymore. It will just be your life. 

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Final Tips To Get You Started on Manifesting Self-Love

If you get nothing else from this post, I want you to remember that you are worthy of love. Self-love can be yours, sometimes you just have to work at it, it doesn’t mean you are any less worthy of it.

Following the steps I have outlined above can lead in you in the right direction to positive changes in your life. Starting your self love journey is one of the best things you can do for yourself.

Don’t feel like this is a journey you need to rush through. Go at your own pace until you feel content with yourself.

If you are struggling and need some extra help, you have resources available to you. Find a therapist in your area using Psychology Today’s directory.

Now that you know it all starts in your mind, what positive thoughts will you be thinking to help you manifest self-love? Share them in the comments if you’d like to.

About the Author

Kelly ClarkKelly Clark

Kelly graduated from Liberty University with a degree in Advertising and Public Relations and a minor in Journalism. Even though it took her a little while to find her career path, she was always meant to be in Communications. She remembers writing poems and songs when she was a little girl and pitching to my parents the reasons why I should have a cell phone when I was a teenager. She currently has a blog ( where she talks about her weight-loss journey, mental health and personal development. Her hope is to encourage and inspire readers and let them know they are not alone. Reading blog posts like that are what helped her in tough times and she wants to pay it forward. She loves dance fitness, listening to music, and creating layouts in her bullet journal. She’s a big fan of planning, especially when cute notebooks and pens are involved.
Her dream job has changed so much over the years; right now she’d love to co-own a dance studio.